People say planning a wedding is one of the most stressful things you can do in your life but up until about a week ago I just found it fun. Over the past 9 months there's been the odd hiccup but nothing major and I've pretty much loved every second of it! However, in the past week I definitely encountered the more stressful side of wedding planning and suddenly had a lot of sympathy for all those other brides out there busy trying to plan their perfect day.
Planning a wedding, however big or small can get very overwhelming. Most people have a picture of their dream wedding in their mind and trying to make that the reality can be challenging as well as trying to please everyone. I've been lucky that I've had a really good idea from the start what I wanted which has definitely helped when it comes to making decisions but it's non stop and can become stressful constantly having to decide things, particularly if your time is precious. This is the part I have found hard in the last week. I have a full time job in a high pressure environment, my blog and I'm recovering from glandular fever. Combine that with wedding planning, a cold and my laptop breaking resulted in me struggling to make my progress with the latter two. I'm too exhausted in the evenings to get anything done and of course you can't phone up companies then anyway. My precious weekends are taken over with appointments or just simply having some time to unwind and at times I've felt like I'm drowning in endless things to do!
After getting stressed out about this and from advice from family and friends I decided that wasn't going to help and I needed to put something in place to help. Below are some of the things I have/thought about which has really helped me and hopefully they will also help you too!
Here are my tips for coping with wedding stress:
1) Be Organised - Throughout the whole wedding planning I have been organised with countless spreadsheets but that only helps if you're on your laptop or PC. So this week I have put together a wedding folder which basically contains some templates I made up in Word where I can write down lists of various things. I included one for appointments, payments, things to do and things I've done so everything is one place. This has helped SO much! I feel like I'm back in control and although I have lots to do it's now all done on paper rather than in my head so I'm not desperately trying to remember them all. At the moment there's over 80 items on one list alone.. no wonder I couldn't sleep with all that whirling around my head!
I also bought a list book from Selfridges which is brilliant. Not only is it pretty but it also has lots of sticky notes inside that can be used to make lists. One in particular is very useful as it has check boxes on it too and I've used it to make a list for me, my Fiance and mum. I use it for my weekly list of tasks where as my 'master' to do list is in my folder. That way I know I'm making progress without being overwhelmed by the ever growing master list.
2) Time Out - Sometimes when everything is getting too much it's a good idea to leave it and do something else. Take a day or too to unwind and do something completely different. Clearing your head will makes things so much better.
3) It's Your Day - Remember what the day is about. It's you and the love of your life getting married. It isn't about the flowers, or napkins or music.. it's about the two of you! You can't possibly please everyone so ultimately you need to do what suits you and your day but of course that doesn't mean you shouldn't consider other people too!
4) Friends and Family - My family and friends are very supportive and have been a big help, my mum and dad in particular. They've done lots to help me with the wedding by collecting and ordering things plus being there to talk to.
5) Don't Panic - My Maids of Honour both advised me it's completely normal to feel stressed during wedding planning and that they were surprised I hadn't felt like it sooner. So don't panic... you are not alone! Everything will get sorted out in the end, just take your time, know what you need to do and do a bit at a time.
6) Perspective - If your feeling stressed about how much to do put it into perspective. Is anyone really going notice that this particular thing hasn't been done? Worst case scenario it probably isn't something anything would know wasn't there or wasn't quite right other than you.
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